No Strings Attached
I don’t know if it’s a coincidence, but in a span of less than 24 hours, I’ve had two close friends come up and share their relationship and other life problems with me. Both their grouses are similar in a way because it stems from trying to fit their partners into their utopian molds. And of course, problems arise because people don’t want to be forced into a mold. It’s quite contradictory really. They say that you are supposed to embrace the person you choose for what he/she is, accept him/her in spite of all his/her flaws. When you can’t even carve out your own ideal life, why try taking on the herculean task of trying to fashion one out for others? Yet, aren’t people built to be dissatisfied with what they currently have? Isn’t it in their DNA to strive to improve their situation, their station in life? And if they choose to share their lives with someone, wouldn’t that then include trying to meddle in the life of that ‘unfortunate’ soul? So what then? Standing at the sidelines and looking at this maddening circus, I can only come up with conjectures why people actually put themselves through this. It’s like a been-there-done-that-now-get-me-out-of-here kind of thing I guess. Haha. But I wonder - if it really is possible to go through life with no strings attached. Note the rhetorical finality to that last statement.
October 7th, 2005 at 9:45 am
‘dont think people are necessarily built to be dissatisfied with what they have… some are more easily contented than others… perhaps at that point when they chose to enter into a relationship, they thought they *could* be contented? obviously, either right away depending on how caught up they were, or after some minor modifications? it’s a gamble they chose to take.
u think it’s not possible to “go through life with no strings attached”?
October 7th, 2005 at 9:57 am
One of my philosophies in life is that people are built to always want more. That’s how mankind progressed in the first place. So yah, naturally, that would extend to trying to improve on their relationships - if it were not already ideal in the first place.
October 7th, 2005 at 10:15 am
too sweeping don’t you think? surely there are people who don’t strive for more.
October 7th, 2005 at 10:57 am
Of course, but why even take them into account in the first place? Life, society, marches on with or without them.
October 9th, 2005 at 4:19 am
well, find someone who doesn’t attach strings then. how about ropes?
;-P
October 10th, 2005 at 10:17 am
oh wow…a great discussion brewing. don’t mind if i jump right in
“Yet, aren’t people built to be dissatisfied with what they currently have? Isn’t it in their DNA to strive to improve their situation, their station in life?”
i agree. but more often than not, the disatisfaction stems from the perception that something better is out there. this is why people can’t look past what is right in front of them even when they already got it good. i know because i just went through this whole thought process over the weekend.